You shouldn’t feel that way. Don’t feel that way. Your feelings don’t matter. Your feelings are wrong. I’ll tell you how to feel. Just stop feeling.
Sounds harsh, right?
How about this?...
Don’t be scared. Stop crying. You’re fine. Don’t be mad. Stop making a big deal out of nothing. Get over it. Let it go.
Yikes! I know I have uttered some of those statements. But, no matter how it is said, the message is the same…whatever you are feeling right now, don’t. That is a powerful lesson for them to be learning, one that will impact them forever.
We love them. We are not heartless. We are not cruel. Sometimes we are just trying to comfort them. “Sweetheart, don’t cry.”
Sometimes we don’t know how to handle it.
Sometimes we don’t want to handle it.