Why You Keep Talking Yourself Out of What You Want (And how to break the pattern in five seconds)

A Whispers from My Wild Soul Post

You felt it.

That full-body yes when you saw the invitation, the offering, the opportunity.

Your heart skipped. Your shoulders dropped.

Something in you whispered, this is for me.

And then… the voice kicked in.

“Maybe later.”

“When I'm in better shape.”

“Once I save up a little more.”

“I’m too busy right now.”

“Maybe next month.”

“Maybe when I feel more ready.”

We all do this. Constantly.

We have these tiny, powerful moments of knowing—where something resonates so clearly, so strongly—and instead of moving toward it, we talk ourselves out of it.

We delay. We research. We overthink. We scroll past.

We trade the simplicity of a yes for the comfort of not yet.

And the thing is, it doesn’t always sound like fear.

It often sounds like logic.

Responsibility.

Maturity.

Caution.

But most of the time?

It’s just your nervous system trying to keep you safe from change.

Even good change—especially good change—can be seen as a threat to the status quo.

Your brain knows how to survive in the current version of your life, and it doesn't want to gamble with the unknown.

But here’s what that part of your mind doesn’t consider:

Not changing is also a risk.

Staying stuck is also a loss.

Not choosing is still a choice—and it has a cost.

You’ll never know what could’ve shifted if you had just… acted.

Let’s bring it into real life for a minute:

You don’t need a new wardrobe to sign up for the retreat.

You don’t need to lose 15 pounds to take the class.

You don't need to learn everything you can about the thing you're about to go learn.

You’re not waiting for clarity.

You’re avoiding the moment where you have to choose yourself.

And that is where the 5-4-3-2-1 rule changes everything.

Mel Robbins offers a countdown—5, 4, 3, 2, 1—and then just do the thing before the excuses take over. Before your brain can build its airtight case for why you shouldn’t.

It’s not about being impulsive.

It’s about interrupting the spiral.

It’s about breaking the habit of self-abandonment before it kicks in.

And it’s about creating just enough space to take one small step—

Not toward perfection.

Not toward certainty.

But toward the version of you that wants this life.

If you’ve felt that pull lately…

If you keep circling the same thing, feeling that gut reaction and then backing away…

This is your moment.

Because the clarity?

The peace?

The confidence?

It comes AFTER the action.

Not before it.

You don’t have to be fully ready.

You just have to be willing to move.

Whispers from My Wild Soul

A blog series of soul remembering, healing, and transformation

These are the quiet truths that rise up when we slow down.

Reflections from the threshold of midlife, where the old stories begin to fall away and the wild soul stirs awake.

Here, I write from the heart—about crone wisdom, spiritual awakening, and the rituals that root me to the Earth and to myself.

These whispers are an invitation to return home to your own wise, wild soul.